Learn — Logan Ury

Learn the secret blind spots holding you back in dating.

Have you ever looked around and wondered, why has everyone found love except me? After hearing this from nearly all my clients, I’ve discovered many of them suffer from dating blind spots—patterns of behavior that hold them back from finding love, but which they can’t identify on their own.

I’ve categorized the most common blind spots into a framework called The Three Dating Tendencies. Take the quiz to identify your tendency and learn what's holding you back from finding love.

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Discover Your Attachment Style: Take the Quiz

Unfollow your Exes, Follow Me

Turning my 335-page book into a 25-minute talk was a huge challenge. But I am very proud of the result.

Check out my featured talk at this year’s SXSW tomorrow, March 17th at 1:30 PM ET / 10:30 AM PT.

Excited to hear what you think!

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Too many of us reject people after the first date because we forget that it takes people time to open up. Plus, attraction often grows over time.

You’re quite possibly missing out on a lot of great matches because you’re saying “n

Are you feeling stuck in your dating app conversations? Sick of being asked, “What did you do last weekend?” only to respond, “Same thing I did the last 52 weekends”? 

One of the best ways to break these Groundhog Day co

Yes, dating is a skill, and yes, it can be taught.

Love this pic from International Women’s Day 2019 with Esther Perel and @brenebrown — two of the people I admire most in the world. Which of your role models are you celebrating today?

Your Video Guide To Love

Video Guide to Love

INVEST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP - THE EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Ever wonder why some couples make it and others don’t? We’ve found it has a lot to do with the “Emotional Bank Account,” which represents the balance of positivity and negativity in your relationship.

The Easiest Way to Improve Your Relationship

The easiest way to improve your relationship is to pay attention to your partner during life’s small, everyday moments. This video shows you how. You can choose to TURN TOWARDS your partner in these moments and accept their bids to connect, or TURN AWAY and ignore their bids.

Modern Romance: Talks At Google

In 2017, Logan began curating her own series of interviews at Google to help people navigate romantic relationships in the digital age.

Talks At Google

Dan Savage & Esther Perel: Love, Marriage & Monogamy

Logan talks to author and sex advice columnist Dan Savage, as well as "Mating In Captivity" author Esther Perel about infidelity, new models for marriage, abstinence-only sex education, and monogamy.

Dan Ariely: On Dating & Relationships

Logan talks to behavioral economist and "Predictably Irrational" author Dan Ariely about the paradox of choice in the "Age of Tinder," why a canoe is the best place to test your long-term compatibility, and other research-based insights and advice for modern dating and relationships.

Drs. John & Julie Gottman: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Logan talks to relationship scientists Drs. John and Julie Gottman about how to make a marriage work and common misconceptions about relationships. They discuss cover they found in their research with gay couples, how to build trust, and why you should keep your standards high.

Dossie Easton: Polyamory

Logan talks to Dossie Easton, a psychotherapist, relationship counselor, educator, and co-author of "The Ethical Slut." They discuss polyamorous relationships, the definition of an "ethical slut," feminism, the connection between technology and polyamory, if monogamy is realistic, and tips for handling jealousy.